A devoted dad stirred up controversy on Reddit recently after his wife told him she was uncomfortable with the way he loves his gay son. It’s a story laced with double standards and red flags that had commenters shaking their heads.
He Has a Lot Going On
Ryan is a 37-year-old man with 20-year-old twin sons in college. He also has a 4-year-old daughter with his wife, who he married 3 years ago.
They Were His Problem
As the math shows, Ryan was just 17 years old when his twins were born. The parents of his 16-year-old girlfriend at the time didn’t want anything to do with them and left Ryan to figure it out.
He Tried to Get Rid of Them
Initially, Ryan wanted to give the boys up for adoption, but his parents made him keep them. He lived at home until he was 24, and when he was ready to move out, he wanted to leave the kids with his parents.
His Dad Kept Them Together
But again, Ryan’s dad stepped in and said that he had to take his boys with him if he was leaving home.
They Got Stronger and Stronger
So Ryan and his sons set off on their own and developed powerful and unique father-son bonds. Before long, Ryan couldn’t imagine life without his boys, and he was grateful to his own father for keeping them together.
He Loved His Boys More Than Anything
One of their favorite activities early on was to pile onto the couch and watch a movie, just the three of them. Ryan would wrap his arms around his son’s shoulders and kiss them on the head.
It Was There Special Place
It became part of their father-son signature. From the time the boys were 7 all the way through to today, you might find Ryan on the couch with one or both of his boys.
He Had a Boyfriend
Recently, one of Ryan’s sons came home for a visit. He also brought another young man with him, who he introduced as his boyfriend.
It Didn’t Matter to Him
Ryan had no idea beforehand that his son was gay, but he didn’t care.
They All Got Cozy
His son visited again after he came out to Ryan and found his father sitting on the couch watching a movie with his little stepsister. The boy sat down on the other side of his dad, and Ryan hugged him and kissed him on the forehead, like always.
She Stuck Her Nose In
The next day, Ryan’s wife told him that she was uncomfortable with him hugging and kissing his gay son in front of her daughter. Ryan was shocked by her attitude and told her it was none of her business how he interacted with his sons.
She Didn’t Feel Respected
He also told his wife she thought she was homophobic. In turn, she said that he does not treat her like an equal parent.
They’re Not Her Kids
To that, Ryan replied with the cold, hard truth. He told his wife that she is not an equal parent when it comes to his twins. Now, hard feelings are simmering between the couple.
She Just Needs to Come to Terms With the Change
Ryan asked his brother for advice, and he told him that his wife probably just needed some time to come to terms with the change. But Ryan doesn’t think there is a problem or anything she needs to “get used to.”
Building a Strong, Healthy Bond Is Important
Redditors overwhelmingly support Ryan and his relationship with his sons. Many of them applaud both Ryan and his father for working through the early years of the twins’ lives to arrive at a strong and healthy place.
The Problem Is Your Wife, Not Yours
Most of them agree with Ryan that any problem that exists is between his wife’s ears and not with his son. They also agree that Ryan’s wife should have no say in how he conducts his relationships with his adult sons.
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