He brought his son a new truck after he finished trade school and only brought his daughter a used car after she graduated college. But hers was only a temporary gift as he’s now selling the car.
A Problem at Home
The Original Poster (OP), a 56-year-old father of two has a son aged 28 and a daughter aged 22.
He is currently facing a dilemma, he wants to know whether he is in the wrong regarding a particular situation between him and his daughter.
He Wants to Help Them in Different Ways
OP, who claims to love both his children equally, acknowledges that they are two different individuals with different needs and priorities.
He has helped both his children based on their respective needs, despite the fact that they are not the same.
His Son Doesn’t Enjoy School
OP’s son, who did not do well in high school, decided to attend a community college after graduating.
Going to Trade School
He realized after just one semester that college was not for him, so he went to trade school and eventually settled on a career in HVAC.
Rewarded His Son With a New Truck
Although his son had a hard time sticking to things, OP rewarded his certification in HVAC by buying him a brand-new truck as a gift.
His Daughter Is Following an Academic Path
Meanwhile, OP’s daughter was more academically inclined, so when she got accepted into a good college out of state, it came as no surprise to the father.
She Though She Would Also Get a Car
When she was about to finish high school, she assumed her father would also buy her a new car, even though he had never promised her one.
She Asked For Help With Her Tuition
When OP explained to her that a college student in a big city would have no use for a car, she asked if he could help with her tuition.
She Seemed Upset So He Tried to Cheer Her Up
OP said no, as he had not paid for his son’s trade school.
When his daughter seemed down, he offered to buy a used car in his name, which she could use until he decided to sell it. She would have to maintain it, though.
He Bought Her an Old BMW
His daughter was happy with this arrangement, so OP purchased a 99 BMW for a low price.
The Car Needed Lots of Repairs
Although the body was in good condition, the car needed work on the engine and transmission and required a new coat of paint.
She Started Doing Unnecessary Work
His daughter initially fixed the car’s essentials but gradually started doing unnecessary repairs, even though her father had not requested them.
She also repainted most of the car and had the interior detailed.
Now He Wants to Sell the Car
When she returned home after finishing her finals, OP decided it was time to sell the car and listed it.
His daughter seemed upset, even though they had previously agreed to sell it, and the father had never asked her to repaint the car.
She Says He’s Going to Get a Better Price Now
She thought he would sell it much later when it rusted, and she believed he could sell it for a higher price because of her improvements.
He Says It’s Not Because of Her Repairs
OP explained that the price of used cars had risen significantly since he bought the BMW before the pandemic, and that’s why he could sell it for more.
He also offered to pay her back half of the paintwork.
Is He Wrong?
Now, the father is questioning whether he is in the wrong situation. He believes he had made it clear he was going to sell the car and never asked his daughter to spend extra money on it.
However, he also feels bad that he upset her and that she had spent so much time and money fixing up the car.
What Redditors Thought
Ace80908 said, “And “helping based on their needs” is you knowing you favor your son and treating your daughter like trash.”
Another wrote, “You bought your son a brand new truck, and you’re not even willing to allow your daughter to keep a used car that you got “really cheap”?”
“Yeah, you’re wrong, and you don’t “help your kids based on their needs”, you favor one of them massively.”
What do you think? Was he keeping up with their agreement or is this an example of unequal treatment among his children? What would you do?
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