Introducing a significant other to one’s family is a big milestone in a relationship. However, sometimes family dynamics can complicate this process, especially when certain family members exhibit toxic behavior.
In a recent Reddit post, a user sought advice on whether they were wrong for deciding not to introduce their girlfriend to their oldest brother due to his history of making hurtful and controversial comments.
He Is Planning to Move In With His GF
The Original Poster (OP) is planning to move in with his girlfriend as they are starting to take the next step in their relationship.
His Girlfriend Wants to Meet His Family
They are planning to meet OP’s family in person as she has only seen them in a video call.
His Eldest Brother Is Toxic
OP has two older brothers, and he doesn’t want his girlfriend to ever meet Dan, his eldest brother. Dan is a 30-year-old who enjoys saying things that are hurtful or likely to stir up controversy.
He’s been this way his entire life and never outgrew it. He enjoys agitating people. OP is not sure why he does it.
His Brother Mocks People
Dan has lost his job and many of his friends as a result of his behavior.
Plus, Dan mocks people’s sexual orientation, race, and religion. Whether or not he truly believes what he says, he expresses them in real life and online.
He Rarely Speaks With His Brother
OP only speaks with Dan when he’s visiting his father, who lives with him, and even then, OP always keeps the conversation light.
OP’s girlfriend is Jewish culturally, and her name reflects that, but her family is not religious. As a result, OP is planning not to let Dan near her at all.
His Girlfriend Agreed to Not Meeting His Brother
OP told his girlfriend about the situation, and she agreed not to meet Dan. She doesn’t want to cope with Dan agitating her because her family has experienced discrimination in the past.
So OP wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his family when Dan was not around.
The Problem Began
However, the problem began when he told his father about it.
His Father Doesn’t Like the Idea
OP’s father disagreed with him, claiming what OP is doing is wrong. Plus, his other brother Ray disagreed as well.
Ray said that OP was overreacting. And when Dan heard about it, he became furious.
They Were Supporting His Brother
OP’s dad and Ray were on Dan’s side.
They said that OP can introduce his girlfriend to the entire family and tell Dan to leave, or OP can leave with his girlfriend if Dan says anything wrong.
His Girlfriend Deserves More
But OP disagreed and said that his girlfriend doesn’t deserve that.
OP’s father thinks he’s being childish and overreacting. But OP doesn’t think so, and he took to Reddit to ask for opinions. Hundreds of comments poured in supporting OP and said that his family is being jerks.
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