A frustrated girlfriend wrote about a recent experience with her boyfriend on a Reddit subthread, asking if she was in the wrong for entering a concert without him after he was late.
Looking Forward to a Concert
The Original Poster (OP), a 27-year-old female, had been eagerly anticipating the opportunity to see a music group perform live prior to the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic.
When she learned that the group would be coming to her city, she immediately knew she would buy a ticket.
She Asked Her BF if He Wanted to Join
OP told her boyfriend, a 29-year-old male, that she was attending the event and asked if he wanted to go too.
She Didn’t Mind Going Alone
The message clearly stated that she was content to attend alone, as he knew she often attended concerts solo.
He Said He Wanted to Go!
Her boyfriend responded promptly, expressing interest in joining her, although OP was aware that he had not yet had the chance to listen to the band’s music.
She assumed he was attending for the overall atmosphere of the event.
Moving Forward With the Plans
OP purchased two tickets for €25 each and did not ask her boyfriend to contribute to the cost.
Getting Ready for the Show
On the day of the concert, OP and her boyfriend made arrangements to meet for a drink at 7 pm, prior to the 8 pm start time.
Given the small size of the venue and the absence of any support acts, OP was confident that the band would begin performing promptly.
Large Baggage Along for the Ride
It is worth noting that OP had a large camping bag with her, as a result of a miscommunication with two of her friends.
He Did Not Answer Her
However, by 7 pm, OP had not received a response from her boyfriend regarding their meeting place, and despite her attempts to contact him, he was unresponsive.
He Had Fallen Asleep!
At 7:40 pm, he messaged her, explaining that he had fallen asleep and would be taking a taxi to the venue.
Unfortunately, due to the high volume of redirected traffic in the city center that night, her boyfriend was still two miles away from the venue at 7:55 pm.
She Went Inside Without Him
At 7:55 pm, OP sent her boyfriend his concert ticket and informed him that she would meet him inside the venue.
While she was aware that this upset him, she had been waiting to see the band perform for more than four years and did not want to miss a single moment of the concert.
Waiting for Him to Find Her
Upon arriving at the venue, OP located a suitable spot to view the concert and placed her large camping bag on the ground beside her.
She then attempted to send a message to her boyfriend with her location but found that there was no signal available.
He Finally Found Her
Given the size of the crowd and her cumbersome bag, OP was unable to actively search for her boyfriend, so she waited for him to find her.
He eventually did so during the final song of the concert, and his displeasure was evident.
He Was Frustrated With Her
When she asked what was wrong, her boyfriend accused her of not making any attempt to locate him inside the venue.
OP admitted to not having done so, which further angered her boyfriend.
He expressed frustration with her, stating that he had only attended the concert for her sake, that she had not made an effort to introduce him to the band’s music beforehand, and that she had ruined his evening.
He Said She Ruined the Whole Night
OP attempted to explain to her boyfriend that she believed the situation was simply an unfortunate turn of events.
However, he persisted in stating that he had attended the concert solely for her and that she had ruined his evening by not waiting for him, despite the fact that he had gone out of his way to accompany her.
Proving Herself With Past Texts
OP felt increasingly exasperated with her boyfriend’s accusations and went back to their previous messages to prove that she had not pressured him into attending the concert.
She Re-Read Him the Conversation
She read aloud their conversation, which clearly indicated that he was under no obligation to come, and had simply been given a link to the band’s Spotify page and the date and time of the concert.
He Wouldn’t Acknowledge She Was Right
However, her boyfriend refused to acknowledge her explanation and accused her of simply wanting to win the argument.
She Didn’t Think It Was Fair
OP was left feeling frustrated and believed that she had done everything in her power to rectify the situation, short of missing the concert entirely.
She did not feel that it was fair for her boyfriend to expect her to do so.
She Would Have Been Forgiving
Additionally, if the roles had been reversed and she had been in danger of making her boyfriend late for a concert that he had been waiting to see for years, she would have encouraged him to go and enjoy the show without her.
Was OP in the Wrong?
Ultimately, OP wondered if she was in the wrong and had acted unfairly in this scenario.
Redditors Chime In
Reddit users overwhelmingly agree that OP is not in the wrong in this scenario. They believe that OP’s boyfriend is trying to deflect blame for his own mistakes and is gaslighting OP by making her feel responsible for his lateness.
They feel that he should have taken the initiative to listen to the band’s music beforehand, set an alarm to avoid oversleeping, and met up with OP on time.
They Sided With Her
They believe that OP did everything in her power to include her boyfriend and that he has no right to accuse her of ruining his evening when he was the one who showed up late.
Keep an Eye on This Behavior
Some users advise OP to keep an eye on her boyfriend’s behavior and reflect on whether this kind of behavior is a regular occurrence.
They also suggest that OP try to communicate with her boyfriend more effectively by calling out his deflections and focusing on his own accountability.
In summary, the Reddit users believe that OP’s boyfriend is the jerk in this situation, and OP is well within her rights to enjoy the concert without feeling guilty.
What Do You Think?
Would you have gone into the concert without your partner?
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