A groom-to-be had Redditors in a frenzy after he told his family to stop calling his second wife his second wife. Because, apparently, sometimes the first ones don’t count. Here is the full story.
His Family Is an Issue
OP is a 32-year-old man who is engaged to a woman that he loves very much. They can’t wait to get married, but his family has been stirring up some trouble for him.
They Really Hit It Off
Back in college, OP became best friends with one of his roommates, who was a woman. Though they were never romantically involved, they became extremely close and remain great friends today.
They Stayed Together
Even after college, OP and the other woman roomed together, and they even adopted a dog together.
She Was Struggling
At that time, OP’s friend was questioning her sexuality, but her very traditional parents were pressuring her to get married. She was also having trouble getting health insurance.
They Found a Solution
So OP talked it through with her, and they decided to get married. They didn’t have a wedding ceremony, but they signed all the documents to make it legal, and they told their families about the marriage.
They Weren’t Happy About It
OP even told his family that the marriage wasn’t fully legit and that the couple was not interested in each other romantically at all. His parents didn’t approve, but it was his life.
He Wanted to Date
As OP reached his mid-20s though, his friend’s life had stabilized a bit, and he himself decided he wanted to start dating for real. So they got a divorce to make sure there wouldn’t be any strings on either of them moving forward.
It Was in the Past
Nobody talked much about OP’s first marriage since the divorce, until he announced that he was engaged to his fiance.
They Dredged It Up
Now OP’s family is giving him a hard time about moving on to his second wife.
They’re Giving Him a Hard Time
Some family members say that’s a lot of marriages for someone OP’s age. Others jab him in the ribs and say they hope #2 turns out better than #1.
There’s a Lot of Judgment
OP knows they’re at least partially joking, but they’re also passing judgment on him. What’s worse, they say all of this in front of his new fiancé.
She Knows Everything
It all makes OP and his wife-to-be very uncomfortable, even though she already knows all about his past.
She’ll Be Wife #2
OP has tried nicely to stop the comments, reminding his family that the marriage to his good friend wasn’t a traditional romantic relationship.
But that just seems to make them double down and say that technically, his fiancé will definitely be his second wife.
He Finally Snapped
Finally, at a recent family breakfast, the comments came at the couple from all directions. OP had enough and started yelling back, saying everyone was being rude and disrespectful.
He Felt Attacked
OP and his bride felt like the whole family was cutting down their relationship.
They Weren’t Backing Down
But OP’s mom and sister pushed back, telling him that he shouldn’t have married a friend if he didn’t want to have to deal with “second wife” comments in the future.
He Would Leave Them Behind
That riled up OP even more, and he told them he’d uninvite them from the wedding if they didn’t stop with the hurtful teasing.
No Way Forward
Now, tensions are high in the family, and OP isn’t sure how to move forward.
No Easy Answers
Redditors are split in their opinions of this situation. Some think that OP was justified in standing for his new relationship. They say that he’s told his family what he expects many times, and they should honor that.
Others, though, side with the mom and sister. They think there’s no escaping the fact that OP’s new wife will, in fact, forever be his second wife since he was married once before.
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