The story of this Redditor’s grandmother’s estate is complex, filled with familial drama and hurt feelings.
At the heart of the matter is the question of who is entitled to the inheritance left by her grandmother and what it means for her relationship with their parents.
A Death in the Family
This 27-year-old woman’s grandmother recently passed away, leaving her estate to her two sons, her granddaughter (the original poster (OP)), and her grandson.
Bad Blood
Her grandmother’s will explicitly said that the share of the estate that would have gone to OP’s father was getting split between OP and their brother.
Her Father Hadn’t Spoken to Her for 15 Years
She made this decision because OP’s father had been estranged from their grandmother for the last 15 years of her life, while OP and her brother maintained a relationship with her.
This sounds like a seriously horrible situation to be in!
Her Parents Have Been Fighting the Decision
Despite this clear division of the estate, her parents have been adamant that they are entitled to the money that would have gone to her father.
They believe that OP’s grandmother wronged them by leaving him out of the will and that the money is his birthright.
Her Father’s Lost His Dignity
OP’s mother has even gone so far as to say that this money is the only thing that will give the father his dignity back and that their grandmother wrote him out of the will to get back at them!
A Tense Situation
The situation has been fraught with tension, with OP caught in the middle of her parents’ demands and her desire to honor her grandmother’s wishes.
She Wants to Honor Her Grandmother’s Wishes
She’s been dealing with their uncles and the lawyers of the estate for the past two years, trying to navigate the complicated terrain of family politics!
She’s Trying to Keep a Relationship With Her Parents
Throughout it all, OP has tried to maintain the relationship with her parents, but it has been a struggle.
But They’ve Cut Her off From the Rest of Her Family!
Her parents have cut her off from the rest of their extended family, both on her father’s and mother’s sides.
While the reasons for this are unclear – OP was young when it happened – her parents have told her that her grandmother judged them beyond reasons that were reparable.
They Don’t Want to Discuss the Issue
When she tried to discuss the inheritance issue with her parents, they replied with resistance.
Her parents accused her of not being poor enough to need the money and of not understanding her father’s need for it to retain his dignity!
They Think She Can’t See the Situation Objectively!
They also claimed that OP had trouble seeing things from a different perspective and that if she understood why their father needed the money, they wouldn’t be fighting like this!
She’s Trying to Stand Her Ground
Despite her parents’ demands, OP has been trying to stand her ground. She loves their parents, but she also wants them to take some accountability for everything that has happened.
But Her Brother Gave Up
Her brother was so scared of losing their parents that he just decided to give them all of his share of the estate.
OP maintained a close relationship with her grandmother, which means something to her! She doesn’t want to lose her only family, but she doesn’t want to betray her grandmother’s wishes.
She Gave Us an Update
Initially, OP posted on Reddit asking if she was in the wrong for how she reacted to this situation and if she should give their parents the money.
However, hours after the initial post, she included an update.
The Situation Exploded Today
It seems her situation came to a head today when she had a two-hour argument with her mother about the inheritance over the phone! Her dad refused even to attempt to talk to his daughter.
Money, Money, Money
Despite OP’s attempts to explain her side of things, her mother relentlessly demanded the money!
She accused her grandmother of being manipulative and manipulating them beyond the grave by writing the father out of the will!
They Believe It’s Their Right
OP’s parents believe that the inheritance is their right and that OP is only involved because they “allowed” her to have a relationship with their grandmother.
They see her as having power over them because of the inheritance, and by choosing to keep the money, the OP is indicating to them that she doesn’t care about her father’s dignity!
Money Can Buy Her Dad’s Dignity
Even after OP tried to explain how the money would help the family as a whole, her parents couldn’t get over the fact that their daughter was in power and explicitly choosing not to save her father’s dignity or feelings!
This Is Just Too Far
OP explains that the most disturbing part of the most recent phone call was when she asked her mother if she would still cut her out were she to keep 1/4 of the money, and her mother said that she would! Her mother said that her trust “would be lost.” What an awful thing to hear!
Redditors were shocked at this story as anyone would be. They couldn’t believe parents could turn on their kids so quickly, just over money!
One user said, “there is no magical amount of money that will make them happy because they are bad people. And why do they think they get to choose themselves over you? Why would you want people like that in your life?”
What do you think this woman should do? Giving the money to her parents is easy, but her grandmother explicitly wrote them out of the will, so should she go against her wishes?
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