This Redditor turned to the Reddit community after her husband ignored her when she was taken to the hospital with a medical emergency.
She responded with a bit of cold shoulder treatment, ignoring him back. She wanted to know if she was being a jerk for ignoring him.
She Had a Medical Emergency…and He Ignored Her
The Original Poster (OP) was taken to the hospital for a medical emergency and while she was there her husband ignored her.
They Visited Their Families
OP, a 24-year-old pregnant woman, was visiting her family in Pennsylvania while her husband, also 24, was his family in Florida.
Concerned for Her Unborn Baby
OP had been experiencing for a few days, which she initially thought were Braxton Hicks or round ligament pain. However, when the pain worsened and she noticed blood in her urine, she decided to go to the emergency room.
Her Husband Couldn’t Be Reached
The hospital diagnosed her with a severe UTI that was on the verge of becoming a kidney infection, causing contractions and a fever. While at the hospital, OP tried to contact her husband multiple times but did not receive a response.
He Was Drunk While She Was in the ER!
After being discharged, OP called her husband and discovered he was heavily intoxicated. She expressed her anger towards him and said she did not want to speak to him that night.
He Messaged the Family Group Chat
However, her husband proceeded to message their family’s group chat and a Discord server where OP talks to her online friends because she was not responding to his texts. She has copies of a few of his messages.
He Wrote a Mean Message to Her
One message, in particular, had a sarcastic tone to it, stating the OP doesn’t allow her husband to drink.
The husband went on to say he wanted to spend time with his family and have fun while having a few drinks and not have to worry about it.
He wrote that OP was mad at him even though he was just trying to enjoy spending time with this family since his dad had passed away recently.
Telling Her Side of the Story
OP’s husband lost his father seven months ago. OP said that she has never prohibited him from drinking, she even encouraged her husband to go out with his family during his visit to them.
She Tried to Prevent Further Embarrassment
Upon returning home, OP went to call her husband to mediate the situation and prevent further embarrassment.
Instead, his sister answered the phone and criticized OP for not trusting her husband and being overly sensitive and dramatic due to her pregnancy.
He Ignored Her
After this, OP’s husband ignored her for the rest of the night. She wondered if she was the one in the wrong in this situation.
It’s worth noting that her husband was not intoxicated when she spoke with him on the phone before going to the hospital.
Reddit Comments
Reddit users were quick to comment on the thread, a vast majority of them siding with OP and her reason to be upset.
One commented that the husband attempted to make OP look bad in front of their friends because she had set a boundary for communication.
The user continued to write that although alcohol can impair judgment, it’s concerning that their immediate reaction was not to give her the space she requested.
He Was Being Unreasonable
The Reddit user said that the messages sent were also manipulative, avoiding the actual reason for OP’s anger and instead framing her as controlling and unreasonable.
This behavior is particularly concerning given that he is about to become a father.
Some commenters thought that OP should consider reevaluating their relationship and whether they can rely on their partner when needed, especially now that they are about to have a child together.
It’s So Unfair
Redditors said that it was unfair for the sister to say “let the past go.” She was still recovering from a dangerous health incident, especially given the added stress of pregnancy.
It’s likely that if the sister were in a similar situation, she would expect her partner to be present and supportive.
He Should Have Shown More Concern
One user was also surprised by the lack of concern on the husband’s part, due to the recent death in the family.
They said “After my dad died, I was hyper aware of the possibility that my loved ones could die. Anytime someone I loved was even the least bit sick, I was WORRIED.”
“The fact that this man, who recently lost his dad, was told that his pregnant wife was going to the emergency room with super concerning symptoms, just put his phone to the side and never checked for messages just to know his wife and child hadn’t also died? I cannot comprehend it.”
What do you think? Is OP justified in being upset with her husband? What would you have done in this situation?
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