In this Reddit post, a man shares his desire to give up work like his wife. However, if he has to keep working, he doesn’t want to fund her – even though he is benefiting from her inheritance.
Struggling to Make Ends Meet
Before the birth of their daughter, the Original Poster (OP) and his wife both worked full-time jobs in low-middle earning positions, with his wife earning slightly more than him.
The Family Was Blessed With a Daughter
Despite the financial strain, they managed to make ends meet and looked forward to welcoming their daughter into the world.
Another Challenge on Their Doorstep
After their daughter was born, the couple faced new challenges.
His Wife Quickly Returned to Work
Due to financial constraints, his wife had to return to work just three months after their daughter was born.
Her Declining Physical and Mental Health
Unfortunately, this decision took a toll on her mental health, which was already fragile due to a minor disability that made work life difficult.
The couple struggled to find a balance that would allow them to provide for their family while also taking care of their own well-being.
A Sudden Death in the Family
Their situation became even more complicated when his wife’s grandma, who had raised her and was her only family, passed away when their daughter was just six months old.
Coming Into a Large Inheritance
While the loss was devastating, his wife inherited everything her grandma owned, including a significant sum of money.
Starting a New Life
It was not enough for them to retire immediately, but it was a considerable amount that would allow them to buy a decent house, two new cars, and invest for their retirement.
His Wife Is Able to Do What She’s Always Dreamed Of
With newfound financial stability, his wife left her job and became a stay-at-home mom.
He Was Jealous
Meanwhile, OP continued working despite wanting to stay home and care for their daughter.
He Doesn’t Want to Work Anymore Either
While he understood the need for an income, it was not easy for him to continue working while his wife was home.
However, he persevered and continued to work to provide for their family.
A Simple Conversation That Got Complicated
Recently, the couple had a conversation about budgeting and living off just one income.
He Doesn’t Want to Pay For Her Hobbies
OP said that he did not want to fund his wife’s hobbies and spend money if he was the only one working.
She Needs to Cut Back on Her Spending
He suggested that if his wife chose not to work, she could buy clothes at a charity shop, get a friend to cut her hair for free, or start an online business to earn some extra money.
Her Hobbies Don’t Benefit Him
He believed he should not have to pay for items like his wife’s sewing materials or gym membership, since they did not benefit from them.
She Argued Right Back
His wife, however, disagreed. She argued her inheritance was worth more than a lifetime of work, and she should not have to compromise on her lifestyle just because she chose to stay home with their daughter.
She felt they should share the money, since she shared the inheritance that had come to her.
Why Should He Pay for All This?
OP countered that he already paid for bills and food and was willing to provide for their daughter, but did not see why they should fund his wife’s spending.
Is It an Unfair Arrangement?
He felt it was unfair for him to have to work and pay for his wife’s hobbies, while not being able to pursue his own interests.
What Should They Do?
The couple’s differing views on the matter had created tension in their relationship. They both knew they needed to find a compromise that would work for both of them.
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