On a recent Reddit thread, a woman asked if she was in the wrong for not making her sister a bridesmaid because of her looks. The Original Poster (OP) didn’t want to be overshadowed on her big day.
Leaving Her Sister Out of the Wedding
A woman wrote on a Reddit thread how she is not going to make her sister a bridesmaid in her wedding because of her looks! What do you think?
Feeling Like an ‘Ugly Duckling’
OP is a 25-year-old self-described “homely-looking girl.” She feels like she is not hot or pretty to anyone’s standard.
However, her older sister (27) is depicted as one of the most beautiful women on earth. OP recalls occasions when her sister was approached at the mall, asking if she was a model.
Sisterly Love Despite It All
OP states they have different dads and that she was always jealous of her sister growing up. OP said she is shorter and feels less beautiful than her taller sister.
Beauty and Kindness
Overall, OP says her sister is a genuinely nice person. She is humble and sweet, and despite her potential in modeling, she ended up in the field of social work and is now working with kids in foster care. OP says they are still close.
They don’t see each other as much since her sister moved to a new city with her husband.
However, they still text and call each other. OP was also her maid of honor two years ago at her sister’s wedding.
A Happy Proposal
About four months ago, OP’s fiancé proposed to her. OP said her whole family was excited for her and that they liked her soon-to-be husband.
OP and her sister like to hang out with their significant others and have game nights or go out to dinner.
Leaving Her Out
After much thought, OP has decided not to have her sister in her wedding. OP states that she wants to stand up at the altar without feeling like she is being compared to her sister.
OP says she feels confident in herself but would like the wedding to be focused on her alone.
The Hard Explanation
OP explained that the sister assumed she would be the maid of honor. Before OP’s decision was accidentally leaked, she went over to her sister’s house to talk to her.
She said she did not want her in the bridal party at all. Her sister was very upset and started to cry.
Family Was Hurt
OP’s sister said she wasn’t mad at her but felt it was very hurtful to exclude her because of her looks. OP said her mom and their dads are all upset as well and feel like it was very rude of OP to exclude her sister like this.
Her sister has RSVP’d to the wedding, but they have not been talking as frequently as normal.
Feeling Guilty for Her Decision
After thinking it through some more, OP decided not to have a bridal party at all at her wedding.
She feels like this would help reduce some of the anger and hurt from her sister, but knows the damage is already done. She is feeling guilty for how it all played out.
Many Reddit users wrote that OP was wrong for excluding her sister in this way. Many had similar stories where family members were excluded from the wedding for one reason or another.
The issue was there was more gossip that stemmed from it all. While some comments were very blunt to OP that she went about this all wrong, some were more gentle in their response.
What do you think? Should OP have kept her sister in the wedding party?
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