A mother asked for advice from the Reddit community after her son asked her to forgo her kitchen renovations and pay for his college tuition. His college tuition was originally paid for until he unwittingly came out to his conservative grandma.
College or Kitchen
A Reddit user turned to the online community to get some feedback on a decision she made regarding her son’s tuition money or paying for a new kitchen.
Coming Out
OP’s son came out to her and her husband when he was 14 years old. OP’s husband and OP are both atheists and support the LGBTQ+ community and were both proud of their son for coming out.
Strict Grandmother
However, OP’s mother-in-law is a devout catholic and is extremely intolerant of gay people.
They Should Attend a Catholic School
She is wealthy and OP’s children were told from a young age their college would be paid for as long as they attended a private Christian or Catholic school.
OP’s mother-in-law believes this will keep them from partying, having premarital sex, etc.
She Won’t Change Her Mind
OP doesn’t agree with this and has argued her children getting the best education possible regardless of the school’s religious affiliation should be the mother-in-law’s top priority, but she refuses to change her mind.
The College Choice
OP’s son chose to attend a Christian college in a neighboring state. After taking many AP classes in high school, he graduated with a lot of college credit.
This means he will complete his college degree in three years as opposed to four. He has just started his second year which has already been paid for.
He Thought He Could Trust Him
During Labor Day weekend, OP’s son returned home to celebrate his grandma’s birthday. He told one of his cousins that he was talking to a boy at his college, a cousin he thought he could trust.
The Secret Is Out
According to OP’s son, the cousin seemed supportive, but he told his mom, OP’s sister-in-law, and dad. OP’s sister and her husband are just are religious as her mother-in-law and outed her son to her.
She Was Stopping Payments
The mother-in-law was livid. She called OP and informed her she will not be making any future payments toward his tuition and told her to relay the message to him as she will no longer be speaking to him.
Hard Decision
OP has told her son many times not to come out to his grandma, cousins, aunt or uncle until he was through with college.
OP hates that he can’t be himself, but she cannot afford his college.
He Has to Pay Now
OP doesn’t like her mother-in-law and will be going no contact once her other two children get their chance to have their tuition paid for as well.
OP’s son is okay with OP waiting to do so for the sake of his siblings. He will unfortunately have to take out student loans and pay the cost of his final year.
Son’s Big Request
OP’s son is obviously devastated that he will not have his final year of college paid for and that his cousin is not someone he can trust. He now wants OP and her husband to foot the bill next year.
Savings for a Kitchen
OP has $25k in savings that she is planning on using for much-needed kitchen renovations. Her oven barely works, her dishwasher doesn’t work at all, and the kitchen itself is worn down and outdated.
His Feelings Are Hurt
OP’s son is calling her insensitive for prioritizing a “remodel” over his education. OP has explained to him that their kitchen is falling apart and it’s much needed and is nowhere near the cost of his tuition.
OP explained that even if they postponed it, they would still be short as his private school is VERY expensive. OP feels like he is an adult and he needs to be the one to deal with the consequences, not her and her husband.
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