A Reddit user asked the community if they were being unreasonable for not letting their mom meet their new baby if she brought along her new boyfriend.
Getting Ready for Baby
The Original Poster (OP) is expecting their first child in a little over a month. OP’s mom expressed interest in flying out to be with them during the birth and to be at the hospital.
OP’s dad passed away 11 months ago, and then three months later, OP’s mom revealed that she had started seeing someone.
OP’s Mom Wanted to Bring Along Her New BF
While OP was happy for their mom, they asked for some time before including the new partner in their life.
Though their mom eventually agreed, OP could tell that their hesitation meant they were likely disappointed by the request for space.
She Felt Uncomfortable About the Idea
OP’s mom expressed that she did not want to meet her grandchild without the man she plans to spend the rest of her life with.
OP expressed discomfort with the idea of him being present and stated that it was not something they were comfortable with.
The Mother Persisted
Despite this, OP’s mom said that she and her partner would still come, even if they stayed in a hotel.
OP told her that her partner would not be welcome at the hospital, and OP’s mom was shocked and could not understand why they would turn her away.
Thinking About the Future
The mother told OP that she is entitled to move on and she should consider how she will feel in five years if she is remarried, and the baby knows them as Grandpa but was denied the chance to meet them when they were born.
The mother also said to imagine telling the child that Grandma was kept away because she did not want to be a widow for the rest of her life.
Family Members Sided With OP
After talking to OP about the situation, OP’s mom spoke to OP’s grandpa and aunt, who are her father and sister.
They sided with OP and suggested that OP’s mom should understand where they are coming from.
The Mother Felt Isolated
The next morning, OP received a text from her mom stating that everyone was on OP’s side, and she felt that nobody was actually happy for her in her pursuit of happiness again.
Still Feeling Guilty
Despite the support of her family members, OP feels uneasy about the situation and is aware that her mom is angry with them for not allowing her partner to be present.
Online Community Weighs In
Some Reddit users are firmly on the side of OP, stating that the mother needs to respect her boundaries and that it is inappropriate to introduce a new romance now.
Others are expressing concern for the mother’s feelings but ultimately agree that it is up to the woman to decide who is present during such a vulnerable and important moment.
“You’re Not Banning Her Forever”
One user wrote “You’re not banning her from meeting her grandchild forever; you just don’t want a stranger there for the birth.
And since you are the one who is going to be giving birth, you should get to choose who you want there. You and the baby should be first priority, not her boyfriend.”
They Agreed With OP
Users also highlight that it is the woman’s decision, and no one else’s, who is present during the birth of her child.
Getting the Right Support
They support the woman’s right to choose and emphasize that her mother should understand and respect her wishes.
Several users also suggest that the mother is selfish in making the situation about her and her new partner rather than focusing on the woman and her child.
His Sister Asked For $20K to Fund Her Gastric Bypass Surgery, He Offered $5K and He Refused to Use His Son’s Tuition Money to Fund the Rest
A frustrated Reddit user explained on a sub thread about a recent experience with their half-sister. She is requesting he pays over $20K to pay for her weight-loss surgery. His Sister Asked For $20K to Fund Her Gastric Bypass Surgery, He Offered $5K and He Refused to Use His Son’s Tuition Money to Fund the Rest
An Entitled Customer Forced Her to Break a Hundred for Him, so She Complied in the Only Way She Could!
This young woman used to work at a convenience store that handled a lot of cash and they had policies in place to minimize the amount of cash available at any one time. So when she was confronted by an entitled customer she did what she had to within the guidelines of the policy. An Entitled Customer Forced Her to Break a Hundred for Him, so She Complied in the Only Way She Could!
Her Tyrant Boss Had It Out for Her and Gave Her Walking Papers But It Backfired Massively, to Her Delight!
This woman’s story of passive aggressiveness makes for a very satisfying read! She explains how she maliciously complied with her boss to turn the tables and put her in a situation she would have hated! Her Tyrant Boss Had It Out for Her and Gave Her Walking Papers But It Backfired Massively, to Her Delight!
The Rental Company Told Him to Bring His Car Back Empty, so He Took It to the Extreme
Get ready for a story of a man who decided to take instructions quite literally, resulting in a hilarious example of malicious compliance. The Rental Company Told Him to Bring His Car Back Empty, so He Took It to the Extreme
She Devised a Clever Plan to Take Down a Scammy Mechanic Who Thought She Didn’t Know Any Better – Boy Was He Wrong!
A mechanic tried to scam a woman not knowing she saw right through him, making him regret his behavior. She Devised a Clever Plan to Take Down a Scammy Mechanic Who Thought She Didn’t Know Any Better – Boy Was He Wrong!
Featured Image Credit: Shutterstock / Dean Drobot. The people shown in the images are for illustrative purposes only, not the actual people featured in the story.