A young man recently took to Reddit to ask for opinions about whether or not he should pay for his estranged mother’s cancer treatments. This is his full story.
He’s Making His Own Way
The Original Poster (OP) is a 24-year-old man who has lived on his own since he was 18 years old. That’s not so unusual, but how he got to that point was anything but typical.
She Was Super Cheap
OP’s parents got divorced when he was just a kid, and his mother got custody of him. She was very cheap when it came to him all through his childhood.
She Skimped on All His Stuff
She skimped on the things he needed in order to save a buck or two, even going so far as to make him wear outdated school uniforms that he had outgrown.
His father thought everything was fine until the school called him and his mother in.
His Dad Was Embarrassed
The administrators wanted to discuss whether or not they could really afford to send their son to that school. His Dad was mortified.
Dad Was Still Involved
Even though OP lived with his mother, his father was still very involved in his life.
He paid child support and frequently bought the boy gifts and items that he needed for school.
Someone Stole His Gifts
But it never took long before the gifts just disappeared from the house.
When OP would ask his mother where the goodies from his dad were, she told him that someone must have stolen them.
She Was Selling His Stuff
Eventually, OP realized that his mother was probably selling the gifts that his father had given him.
She Wanted Him to Stay
It all took a heavy emotional toll on OP, and his relationship with his mother had pretty much disintegrated by the time he turned 18. Even so, she depended on him being there to help her out and didn’t want him to leave.
Gone in the Night
But OP couldn’t take it anymore, and he moved out of the house one night while she was asleep. He moved in with a friend and his father helped him with bills until he could get on his feet.
With the child support payments gone and her son out of the house, OP’s mother abandoned the house and just disappeared.
He Landed on His Feet
In the years that followed, OP got a job with a small company and worked his way up to a better position.
He Was Optimistic
He was able to get a place of his own and a car, and he was starting to feel optimistic about the future.
Therapy Helped a Lot
He even spent a lot of time in therapy, which helped him understand just how bad his mother had been to him. And how to move on and not let the past cripple him.
Mom Needed Him Again
Then, recently, his mother contacted him out of the blue. She has cancer and wants him to pay for her treatments.
It Was Typical
OP was blindsided by the request and could hardly believe that she would ask so much from him after the way she had treated him his whole life.
But when he thought about it more, he realized it matched her MO perfectly.
Then the Hospital Called
He wasn’t even sure he believed she had cancer, but then the hospital called him to discuss payment for her treatments.
He’s Actually Considering It
Now, even with all the hard feelings between them and all the pain she’s caused him, OP is considering paying for her cancer treatments.
He Has No Obligation to Pay
Reddit commenters overwhelmingly tell OP that he has no obligation to pay for his mother’s treatments. Most of them are pretty strong in their advice to NOT pay a dime. They say she has done nothing but make his life harder than it should have been.
They Understand the Sentiment
Some say they understand the sentiment for wanting to help his mother even though she’s been terrible to him, but they point out he’s still not in a good financial position to do so.
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